It is hard enough to walk in this world as an indigo adult and an empath and, without ever touching anyone, pick up on so much invisible stuff that is going on.
But then you bring sex into the picture and it’s a whole new mastery.
You, the indigo adult/psychic mind/empath is literally, physically merging with another individual. And with that physical merging automatically comes an energetic merging.
I take on the traits of my lover… both good and bad.
I believe most empaths do… which a good reason to pick you lovers carefully.
I really have no solution to prevent this from happening. And with me, even when I am being very diligent about cleaning my energy field, I still am not usually able to clear my lover’s energy away. It just doesn’t happen.
Maybe it’s different for male indigo adults, because they are not literally, bringing someone’s physical being into their body (unless they are gay) and I feel that that makes female indigo adults and empaths more susceptible to carrying their lover’s energy.
The unfortunate thing for me has been that because I am feeling energy that is not mine in my body that I am unable to clear, it makes long term romantic/sexual relationships sometimes uncomfortable.
This is because for long stretches of time I will see a trait that I know is not mine that I am picking up from my lover, and I can’t shake it.
For example, let’s say that I’m dating/having sex with someone that doesn’t like biking. After a while, I may start to find biking distasteful, even though I truly love biking (which I do). After a few months I will notice that I am not biking and yet also sense a part of me that is longing to go biking.
Because biking is at my core (along with the attributes that are at my core self that have shifted since the beginning of the relationship) I will eventually find that all of those traits that are mine will overpower the traits I’m picking up from my mate.
That is usually when I end up breaking up with my mate.
This can happen in non-sexual relationships, especially familial relationships, but it is even more powerful with a lover.
The most difficult part to deal with is the psychic mind part of myself in sexual relationships. If the person I am dating/making love to is not psychic, it closes me up, which is uncomfortable to me. Short term, it’s fine. I usually just get head aches with lovers that are psychically closed. But long term, it feels like something is missing from my life and that I’m lacking awareness.
One interesting thing in the case of me (an indigo empath and psychic) dating a muggle is that I usually end up evoking a psychic opening in the muggle. Petunias love this, because they want to learn more about the invisible world. So, for example, my last boyfriend, who was a muggle/Petunia, loved this benefit of dating/fucking me.
The other relationship type is when I am with another indigo adult/intuitive/emapth/psychic mind. That can get messy because usually our vibrations are so close that we don’t know who’s stuff belongs to who.
So if my lover, who is a psychic empath, is having a bad day and is pissy about it, I could be having the greatest time on a beach in Hawaii and still feel pissy and not know why.
It’s very annoying, unless you are dating an indigo who is really good at refocusing positively.
And in both cases, if the indigo adult/empath’s lover is partaking in substances, the indigo adult/empath will most likely be affected by it.
So this has lead me to wonder if I will ever end up getting married.
Sexual merging is not something I have partaken in a lot. And if I do, it’s with someone who has habits and thought patterns that I can live with, and with the positive habits/thoughts, enjoy.
But I guess that’s what makes for a good relationship, huh?
I am just looking at it through an energetic lens.
Oh, and I almost forgot to mention…
I am connected to all of my lovers in the past and I think this is true for everyone. Not just indigo adults/empaths.
We (indigo adults/empaths) are just able to tune into it better. So I can feel when my boyfriend from 8 years ago is thinking about me. Or when I think about him, I can connect with how he is feeling at the moment, even if I have both of us in a bubble.
Something to keep in mind if you choose a lover who can get obsessive. I have one ex that always fantasizes about me (and not in an energetically gentle way… as I taught in my last post) and it’s very annoying.
Oh, but here’s the super-cool upside about being an empathic indigo adult… you intuitively know where/how to touch your lover. Because you can feel it and sense it.
And if you are with another indigo adult or emapth (or start psychically opening a muggle) you will get to enjoy the same benefit.
To put it bluntly, it makes sex really, really great.
So choose your lovers wisely, indigo adults, because you will get much closer to them than just physically.
Any other indigos/empaths/psychic minds have experiences like the ones I’m describing here? Please leave your experiences and thoughts below.